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June 19, 2008

Top 10 Things to Remember When Coaching

10)  Follow the client's agenda

9) Start the session with something like, "what do you want to accomplish today and how do you know you we will have been effective when we are finished?"

8) Remember to stay in their story, not yours...if you hear yourself saying "I" you probably are in your own story.

7)  Try to remain in third level listening, global listening where you can connect their speech back to their conversation objectives and long term goals.

6)  Do not work harder than the client.

5)  Remember to "offer" a thought rather than give...seek permission.

4)  If something is uncomfortable, go one step further before backing off.

3)  Remember that coaching is asking questions and consulting is giving answers.

2)  Be future based and only use the past to support changes for the future.

1)  The client, fundementally, has the correct answer within them!

copyright 2008 Dave Gerber

April 22, 2008

Top 10 Ways to Know a Co-worker is under a great deal of stress

How to really tell if someone is stressed?

1)     They have trouble making easy decisions

2)     They experience mood swings in the same day

3)     Their conversations seem to fixate or cycle back to the same theme/topic

4)     They talk about trouble sleeping, focusing or maintaining their regular habits

5)      Small issues become large very quickly

6)      They are emotional hijacked

7)      Their predominant mood appears or is ‘stressed out’

8)    They suffer a lack of productivity

9)      They seem argumentative or withdrawn

10)  They intuitively know their ‘normal’ energy is different

©2008 Dave Gerber

April 16, 2008

How can we identify potential problems based on conflict, address them by applying useful tools, and then obtain the outcome we desire?

One of the best concepts found in the PMBOK Guide is one of the simplest. The framework of using Inputs, Tools and Techniques and Outputs to move from start to finish is both clear and useful. We offer a variation on that theme using the same model for identifying problems (Inputs), methods to address them (Tools and Techniques) and achieving desired results (Outputs).

Juxtaposed against the F.A.C.T.S. model, this creates a matrix and a unique and useful way to view the principal factors of conflict in following an accepted project management approach.

The problems and challenges for the project manager that arise from Fear, Anger, Control, Trust and Synergy issues are many and varied, which we will discuss as the central themes to this book.

Fear, what Dorothy Thompson called “the most destructive element in the human mind,” manifests itself in a number of ways (Inputs). We fear insecurity, our own inexperience, and perhaps even our own incompetence or ignorance in a specific area. We fear a lack of “top cover” when we make a mistake and we may even fear success! By asking questions, learning as we perform, adjusting as needed, seeking the counsel of those around us and managing our emotional reaction to our fears, (Tools and Techniques), we can create the positive results we want and need.  These results, (Outputs), include new confidence, independence, improved self-image, some level of expertise, and a more rational thinker.

Anger stemming from past offenses, long held grudges, frustration, immaturity or some other pain are all inputs that can be addressed with proper tools and techniques.  Personal growth, learning to forgive and forget while accepting our own failures, can hasten our achievement of the desired output. Applied properly, these techniques can lead to a calmer, cooler and more relaxed version of ourselves. We will think more clearly, improve our ability to reason and “lengthen our fuse” so we are slower to anger in the future.

Typical Control issues plague us in several ways. Our relative position on the organization chart, our age (too young or too old) our time with the organization itself, and our apparent inability to influence leaders, open us to more opportunities to have to face conflict head on. Often, control issues are overcome with time.  As we grow into the job, our influence widens and our credibility increases.  We will build relationships, expand our network, and become better communicators with experience. The outputs we will then enjoy include the ability (and willingness) to accept more risk, work more efficiently and be more trusting while focusing on the needs of those around us.

The lack of Trust is manifested in even more obvious ways. These inputs might be low self-esteem, operating based on fear, hoarding information, working alone when teamwork is clearly optimal and an unwillingness to take others into one’s confidence or inner circle. To overcome these obstacles, we must learn to delegate and accept the risk of the failure of others.  This requires that we take the time to train, coach and mentor as necessary. The outputs we hope to realize include an exponentially increased presence in the enterprise – because we have “extended our reach” by building trusting relationships with others. 

Finally, problems caused by the absence of Synergy, especially within the structure of project teams, will bring unwanted and often unforeseen problems.  Poor integration, inadequate processes and procedures, stove-piping, poor collaboration, and even a substandard cross-training policy can lead to synergistic nightmares.  We can apply training, team building exercises, and a more appropriate structure and organization. Synergy brings about efficiency and “smoothness” to work flow that is difficult to describe but understood by most managers. Accountability is properly distributed, the chain of supervision is made clear and conflict is dealt with properly and promptly.      

©2008 Dave Gerber and Dave Maurer – Extracted from their book “Are You a King or Queen of Conflict…in Project Management?” found at www.kingorqueenbooks.com (coming soon.)

“A project is complete when it starts working for you, rather than you working for it.”

-Scott Allen

What are the Project Management basic skills I should learn and master to avoid basic conflicts?

Familiarity with or knowledge in the following areas of interest within the discipline of Project Management are important to achieving success as a project manager:

    • Identification and definition of a project
    • Development of specified and implied requirements
    • Development of specified and implied tasks
    • Work Breakdown Structures (WBS)
    • Earned Value Management (EVM)
    • Development of milestones and timelines
    • Development of integrated schedules
    • Network Diagrams
    • Critical Path Method (CPM)
    • Program Evaluation and Review Techniques (PERT)
    • Activity sequencing
    • Progress tracking
    • Project management tools (Gantt charts, software, formulas, templates, etc.)
    • Team development
    • Team building
    • Stakeholder management
    • Conflict management and resolution
    • Cost estimating/planning
    • Managing to a budget
    • Role of the team leader or project manager
    • Role of the team member
    • Anticipating and managing change
    • Dealing with uncertainty
    • Dealing with unpredictability
    • Risk identification and management
    • Procurement document types (types of contracts)
    • Development and use of a Lessons Learned database
    • Core Documents (Project Charters,

      Mission

      Need Statements, Project Management Plans, Quality Control Plans, etc.)
    • The 5 Process Groups of a project (Initiating, Planning, Executing, Controlling and Closing)
    • The 9 Knowledge Areas of project management (IAW the Project Management Body of Knowledge…Integration,  Scope, Time, Cost, Quality, Human Resources, Communications, Risk, and Procurement)
    • Conflict fluency related to the 5 phases and 9 Knowledge Areas

Anyone in nearly any position can conceivably be called upon to be a project team member or even lead a project.  Therefore, all professionals should be exposed to the principles and tenets of project management as it is used in industry and government.  Without a fundamental understanding of the above listed issues, project managers are bound to run into basic conflicts that could be avoided and have a better understanding of how to comprehensively address larger conflict issues.


©2008 Dave Gerber and Dave Maurer – Extracted from “Are You a King or Queen of Conflict…in Project Management?

March 13, 2008

5 Questions and Answers about Training

  1. What are common mistakes CEOs make when approaching employee training?

o        Not doing it enough for the company, i.e. undervaluing the ROI

o        Not doing it enough for their own executive team

o        Only seeing professional development from their perspective, especially if he/she does not value it personally

o        Not spending time doing training on conflict management issues

o        Not understanding that Professional Development training is in the top 10 for reasons people enjoy and stay at their job

o        Not using an appreciative inquiry model to find out what the employees believe is the real problem or what the training should focus on

o        Not doing personal investigation into the company that will be delivering

o        Unrealistic expectations.

o        Thinking of training as an ‘extra’ – history has shown us that regardless of financial times, we still need to train employees interpersonal and technically

o        Not listening or valuing HR’s opinion enough when designing the long-term training plan

o        Thinking that one or two training days is going to correct or prevent major or consistent problems

o        Having champagne dreams on a beer budget

  1. What should CEOs expect as a return on investment for training?

o        A stress free relationship where the training company reduces drag for the CEO’s organization by exceeding deadlines and expectations while modeling positive behavior

o        A tangible tool and/or skill set that is reproducible immediately upon completion of the training

o        Customization for their specific company and industry

o        Employees walk away motivated and energized

o        Employees have fun while learning and spending time together

o        High levels of knowledge transfer using innovative methodologies

o        Employees are accountable for applying the new information

  1. What should they not expect?

o        Quick, instant fixes

o        That everyone will “get it” or use it

o        Results without incorporating evaluation and accountability of some kind

o        Targeted training will take care of other problems

o        That everyone will attend the training (excuses)

o        That everyone will agree with objectives, delivery, style or propose of the training…do it anyway.

  1. Besides the tangible bottom line results, what other benefits can you expect from implementing a sales program?
  • Increased motivation, retention, related success, direction, mission, purpose, infrastructure, mentoring, contact management system, increased revenue brings increased freedom, increased connections, increased corporate giving, increased

  1. What advice would you give to a CEO who was looking to implement or revamp a training program?

o        Consider a

Leadership

Academy

as or part of the infrastructure

o        Consider how the training fits into long term strategic or professional development goals

o        Get input from HR and the entire executive team, depending on the training.

o        Bring in outside help, someone that is not too close to the issue(s)

o        Think with the end in mind…back map so you ensure employees gain everything you need them to glean (what is the 5 or 10 year plan?)

o        Make sure the people who are selling the training are also teaching and/or writing the curriculum

o        Get someone that understands both curriculum design and training delivery.

o        Don’t use the economy as an excuse not to implement, your competition won’t

o        The sooner the better

January 08, 2008

2nd Annual - 2008 On Fire Leadership Conference

[Please visit www.onfireleadership.com to learn about the conference on January 31st, in Vienna, Virginia...]

What is On Fire Leadership?

Some leaders are ON FIRE!  You can just see it in their eyes, their approach and their actions.  They come to work with a spark that sets the tone for the day or the project and we wonder, “…where do they get that energy?”  Maybe they love their work or the people on their team.  We think it’s that and much more.  It’s a mind set.  It’s a willingness to try new things, to risk more often and to learn to trust our own informed judgment and experiences.  Good leaders have that spark – GREAT leaders ignite the flame in their colleagues, subordinates, superiors and everyone around them.  An On Fire Leader is never alone - an On Fire Leader gains a following and lights the way to success!

This annual conference is your opportunity to find that spark within.  It’s in January and the start of a New Year.  What better time to resolve to learn new skills and hone those we already have?  Let this be the most important and relevant resolution for 2008 – to be the best and most effective leader you can be. 

What’s in store? Visit www.onfireleadership.com to learn more...

  • Discover new tools and techniques that will instantly improve your ability to relate to others;
  • Successfully conduct difficult conversations;
  • Improve negotiating and communication skills;
  • Understand, embrace, and use conflict
  • Look at leadership principles in imaginative new ways

All leaders have their “tool kits” of tried and true processes, procedures, templates, systems and methods.  This is the chance to add to that kit, improve on the tools that work for you and learn how to use the new ones we offer.  Prepare yourself and your team for a “great ‘08” and join us for an invigorating day of learning and networking.

In this program Dave Gerber and Dave Maurer (and a guest or two) will deliver tools, strategies and more than a few laughs to keep you moving forward toward your goals.

Take YOUR leadership to the next level.  Start the Fire!!

For more details Contact Dave Gerber gerber@synergydt.com

December 20, 2007

Virtual Office?

Stink test for virtual office success --

  1. Are you making sales or connections?
  2. Are you getting your paper work done?
  3. Are you making all of your calls?
  4. Are you responding to all client needs within 24 hours?
  5. Are you responding within an ‘accepted’ response time to your email?
  6. Has your boss given you permission for some virtual time?
  7. Are you motivated by being allowed to work from home?
  8. Do you still go to the office and make connections to sustain good relationships?
  9. Does working the hours you want in a day motivate you?
  10. Does this type of work environment make you happy?

*Unless you have 10 out of 10 “yes” answers, the virtual work model is probably not good for you

*Copyright 2007 -- Dave Gerber

November 26, 2007

20 Points

20points


For Success in the Workplace

  1. Always Act with Integrity and Honesty

·         This one is non-negotiable.  You either have integrity or you don’t.  You either behave honestly or you don’t. As professionals who represent not only ourselves but also our company, clients and customers – we can settle for nothing less than 100% integrity and honesty in all we do and at all times. What we allow will become our standard.  There is simply never a good reason for behaving any other way – only an excuse.

  1. Respond

·         Actually, I like the word “respondability.” This is one item that will separate you from the pack.  This has been a key to any personal success I have enjoyed and critical to the success of my company and that of the teams with which I have worked. When we are totally responsive to our client’s needs, and the needs of those around us - we become value-added and an indispensable partner.  To be responsive means being available, being prepared to carry out a mission on short or no notice and doing so in a positive and professional manner.  Clients may not always notice when we are responsive but they absolutely notice when we are not.  Responsiveness and “respondability” also apply to our co-workers in need.  Help one another whenever you can, the next one to need help may be you.

  1. Anticipate

·         We have to think like our clients, supervisors, and teammates think and before they do, when possible.  When we can anticipate their next question or next requirement or anticipate the next turn in the road that they may not have considered, we add value.  Think over the horizon.  What may happen next and what does anticipating that possibility do to enhance preparation and appropriate reaction? Anticipation is also taking ACTION.  When we sense the need for a briefing or presentation developing – prepare a draft for the client – don’t give her a blank page – give her something to ponder, change and play with.  She will appreciate your thinking ahead and saving her some work.  It is far easier to edit than to create so we are providing a great service when we take the lead and get out in front of requirements.

  1. Follow-up

·         We have all heard of “an action passed is an action completed.”  Well, that is not the way it works.  When you start an action – it is YOURS till it is completed. An action that you touch should nag at you until you know it is completed.  Don’t assume someone else took it over for you – check on it, help move it along and stay on top of it – you are accountable for it – only you.  Another aspect of the Follow-Up tenet is to close the loop with the people around you.  When you are asked a question, answer it.  When someone is clearly expecting to hear from you – be sure they do.  Remember how frustrating it is when you have asked your supervisor, client or colleague a question, sought guidance or wanted clarification before moving forward and the lack of response (and evidently interest) was deafening?!  Don’t be guilty of the same lack of follow-up with those in your world.

5.      Identify Problems and Solutions

·         As professionals, we are expected to develop and offer solutions to problems we encounter and identify.  When you see a problem and pass it along to your boss or client without offering a course of action or two to address it, your value is limited.  Think about the root causes of the problem, what can be enacted now and in the future to overcome, mitigate or avoid the problem and suggest solutions.  When you play a role in shortening the time between problem identification and solution – you become known as a problem solver; and you become more valuable to the organization.  By the way, the more solutions you generate, the more problems will find you – being the go-to person on the team is a mixed blessing.

  1. Demonstrate Personal Accountability

·         When you get an action or are given a responsibility – your leaders will rightfully hold you ACCOUNTABLE for it.  There will be times that you will have to depend on others for help or input or other support to complete the action but you must appreciate that regardless of all that – in the end, you are accountable.  You can’t walk away and point the finger at someone else who failed you – it was yours to do.  So, you will need to muster all your personal and professional skills and use them to get the support you need to be successful.  This is often quite a challenge. Work to be the kind of colleague that others want to support and help succeed.  Help others and they will, in all likelihood, be there for you.

  1. Work Hard   

·          I guess this should go without saying but here it is anyway.  The work we do is not always a pleasure cruise – sometimes it’s fun and energizing but sometimes it is just hard work.  Be grateful when you work in an environment that notices hard work and recognizes when that extra effort is applied.  If you don’t – keep looking because happiness and satisfaction will elude you until you do. You can’t shy away from hard work – you are compensated for the work you do so always give it 100% effort and you will never be faulted. Remember the wise words of the baseball manager in the movie A League of Their Own, “…if it was easy, everyone would do it.”

  1. Show a Sense of Urgency

·         We have to maintain a healthy sense of urgency about our work.  This not only keeps the interest high and the adrenaline flowing – it demonstrates our level of concern for the mission at hand.  Nothing is more painful to watch than an employee half-stepping his or her way through the day.  Most anyone can spot it in a minute and those who are pumping along tend to resent those who take on work like it was the Ebola virus.  Get your work done as quickly as you can and show everyone that you care about the task. That pep in your step is another discriminator that separates you from everyone else.  When you have a mission to accomplish, just do it!

  1. Foster Personal Discipline 

·         Be professional.  Be on time, be prompt for meetings, dress properly, be prepared wherever you go and don’t do anything to embarrass yourself or the company and the people you represent. More and more emphasis is placed on this trait these days, maybe because it seems to be in shorter supply than in the past.  Strive to be the kind of person that others will look up to.  Set the bar high for yourself and you will never regret the reaction you get from others or the improved results you derive from within.  When you demonstrate a high degree of personal discipline, you can expect to see it in those around you too.

  1. Lead by Example and Follow Well and Faithfully 

·         You don’t have to be in a leadership position to be a leader.  The best leaders lead by example.  Everyone watches everyone so be sure what you are demonstrating is what you really want to portray – a capable, confident professional who does his job to the best of his ability – all day, every day.  The military has long had an axiom that you are “on parade 24 hours a day.”  Remember that and act accordingly.  Take charge when you must and do so with confidence – don’t be surprised when others follow you.  They will.  Learn how to be a good follower too.  Everyone has a boss and our roles as followers can make or break our leaders and affect the overall success of the entire organization. Good followers tend to grow into good leaders because they understand the other side of the equation.  Followership is more than taking orders and doing what you are told.  It’s adhering to norms, being part of the team and encouraging others to join in the undertaking to achieve a goal.

  1. Be Loyal  in All Directions

·         Be loyal to your employer, your supervisor, your co-worker and your subordinates.  This is one of those traits that will always cut both ways.  This is pretty basic but is often absent or situationally dependent.  Loyalty means you don’t partake in rumor mongering and you don’t trash others behind their backs.  Professional disagreements are one thing but backstabbing and the like is disloyalty and it cheapens you and those who engage in it.  Loyalty does not imply that you should be blinded by it; not al all.  Do what’s right but be loyal to those that surround you.  If you feel that you must go in another direction, be open and candid with your reasons and do so, but guard against being underhanded and slick.

  1. Be Consistent

·         It seems that lately, I hear more and more complaints that leaders and managers are unpredictable and even “diagnosed” as bi-polar in their behavior.  Happy and positive one day and critical and cruel the next.  Some workers claim these moods change daily or even hourly.  Nothing can be more debilitating and disheartening than not knowing what to do because you fear the unknown response or consequence.  Solid leaders are consistent.  Their employees know what to expect, within a given range, of course.  If you are a supervisor and are of the mind that leaving your staff members confused about what to expect from you next is a good thing – think again. This lack of consistency only harbors mistrust, ill will and fear. 

  1. Show Gratitude and Respect for Others 

·         The Golden Rule applies and they don’t call it golden for nothing.  Do unto others, as you would have them do unto you.  Respect one another as individuals and you will be respected in return – it’s that simple.  Do you know the PLATINUM RULE? Do unto others as they would like to be done unto. The English is probably wrong but you get the idea. This requires some real people skills and the desire to extend yourself.  Respect is one of those unusual commodities that you can only receive by giving.

  1. Build Teamwork  and Collaboration

·           You are not alone.  Don’t ever spend time banging your head on the wall because you feel isolated and alone in your work and can’t get ahead of it.  Find a teammate, co-worker, supervisor – anyone – and ask for the help you need.  Usually, the response will be very positive – you may be surprised. It’s tempting to feel vulnerable and insufficient if you need to ask for help, but don’t allow that to stop you.  In the circle of life, you will find yourself on the opposite side of this fence sometime. Getting things done together – may be far more efficient than going it alone. Learn to work together towards a solution.  Give and take.  Very few people can accomplish great things alone – in fact, I am not sure anyone ever has. It does take cooperation and collaboration to succeed, so extend your reach and permit others to reach out to you to foster true success.

  1. Promote a Common Purpose

·        Call it vision if you like.  Good leaders recognize that with no visible, achievable or defined target, even well-intended actions are random and arbitrary.  Leaders help identify the common purpose and unify the team members to move toward that target.  They provide the goal and the means to get there.  It can be challenging, but a key role of leadership is explaining how all the disparate parts need to work in concert to achieve success.  Without the common purpose defined, employees and teams could find themselves working at leas than peak efficiency or worse – working against one another.

  1. Infuse Passion 

·         We have all heard much said about the benefits of having a passion for your life’s work.  It is true, you know.  Get passionate about what you are doing.  Start to appreciate that what you do makes a difference in the lives of real people out there. If you can’t feel energetic and enthused and upbeat about spending your day trying to make things better (systems, outcomes, relationships, and so on), then you need to check for a pulse.  Working is great and noble and you should be proud of your daily contributions to the cause, whatever it is.  So put that pep in your step and smile more – you are making a difference to a lot of people.

  1. Cultivate Your Reputation

·         You are your reputation.  What does yours say about you?  Work every day to improve it by doing what is right, taking care of one another and over-extending yourself to your client, your customers and your co-workers.  Do that and your reputation will speak volumes. Keep this in mind…its not who’s right, it’s what’s right, that’s important.

  1. Display a Seriousness of Purpose and a Sense of Humor

·           Take your job seriously.  Work hard at becoming better at it.  Study what you need to learn to become proficient and competent.  Work is a serious business and others will be depending on you knowing your job. Yes, work is serious but you still need to have fun.  Keep your sense of humor at all costs!  Use it to diffuse tense situations but be careful to use it appropriately – never to hurt someone else.  No matter how hard the day or how long the hours – it could always be worse.  We rarely have bleeding and death to contend with so keep things in perspective.

  1. Continue to Grow 

·         You are responsible for your development and growth as a person and professionally.  Others may be around to help with training, education and job placement when appropriate, but we each need to take responsibility for discovering what we want to be and how we want to get there. You will always be your best career manager. When you stop growing, you die.  Be on the lookout for that next opportunity and be prepared.  Success is when preparation meets opportunity.

  1. Care for Those in Your Charge

·        As a leader, nothing is more defining that the way you take care of those in your service. In this respect, leadership is not very different than parenthood. Your employees depend on you to set and enforce high standards, lead by example, and help them succeed.  Leaders who care only for themselves or place themselves above the welfare of others are destined for failure, or at the very best, limited success.  The responsibility of leadership is great and you must constantly earn the right to be called a leader.

Copywrite 2007 by Dave Maurer

Dave Maurer is a Vice President with Axiom Resource Management, Inc. in Falls Church, Virginia.  He is a retired Army lieutenant colonel who has served in multiple assignments in more than 21 years on active duty.  He has commanded troops, and held several senior staff positions including a tour as the Executive Assistant for the Director of Manpower and Personnel (J-1) on the Joint Staff and finally, as the 72nd Adjutant General of the United States Military Academy at West Point. He is a certified Project Management Professional. He has lectured on the topics of leadership, negotiation, and project management for the FBI, the CIA, the World Bank, the University of Maryland Smith School of Business, the Project Management Institute, the United States Air Force, the United States Marine Corps, and other elements within the Department of Defense.

October 17, 2007

Conflict F.A.C.T.S

“We have met the enemy, and he is us.”
              -Walt Kelly

FEAR * ANGER * CONTROL * TRUST * SYNERGY

Fear, anger, control, the lack of trust and synergy are the greatest inhibitors to a personal and professional life with reduced conflict. Before explaining each concept in its own individual chapter, it would help to examine some overview questions on the subject.

Use the Agents of Socialization, the Essential Questions and our past experiences to explore each of these concepts and how they are directly relate to us.

F = Fear

¨       Who would I be if I were not afraid? What could I do?

¨       What is my approach toward handling fear? What fears have I overcome?

¨       What am I truly afraid of in this life? What can I do now?

¨       Who can help me overcome this fear?

¨       What will happen if I do not overcome this fear?

A = Anger

¨       What is the distinction between disappointed, frustrated and angry?

¨       How did I learn to be angry and show it?

¨       Why is anger an acceptable emotion for me?

¨       How can I anticipate anger before it happens, and what can I do about it? 

¨       What about anger is unacceptable for me?

C = Control

¨       How does control show up in my most relationships? Acquaintances? Friends? Colleagues? 

¨       Are there any specific control issues to investigate?

¨       How can I relinquish the need for control in the moment? Is there a way to remind myself when I feel this pull?

¨       How do I respond when I feel someone is trying to control me in a way that does not damage to the relationship?

¨       How can I manage situations so that it does not look controlling?

T = Trust

¨       What were my earliest messages about trust?

¨       What does trust mean to me? Is it a top currency of mine?

¨       How do I build and sustain trust with friends, family, colleagues and others?

¨       With whom can I reestablish trust right now?

¨       What would happen if I went out of my way to demonstrate trust?

S = Synergy

¨       How well do I work with others?  Where did I learn how to be myself in a group?

¨       What is about others that gets in my way?

¨       How do I respond to attempts at being included or not included?

¨       What is the cost of not creating synergy?

¨       How can I create and demonstrate more value when I am working with others?

F.A.C.T.S. summarizes some of the most basic life issues and obstacles. The timing of our actions and reactions will often influence the impact of a situation. Unfortunately, many people react with conflict or behavior that brings about conflict secondarily.